A Time to Come in; A Time to Leave

Whatever said and done, the Space is always limited…

Yes, the space around us! If we stand at a place and draw a circle around us–no matter how big a circle we draw, it shall be finite; limited.

In that circle which we all need to draw around us, our relationships are enveloped. Be they whom we love; or be they whom we don’t. Even if we dislike or despise someone, a ‘connect’ is built with that person. So, he or she will be in our circle. Because emotions (positive or negative) work like strings, they attach us to every person we love or hate. A bond is formed, wherever any emotion breathes.

HOW MANY DO YOU SEE IN YOUR CIRCLE?

Have you looked closely at your circle?

How many persons do you find there? With how many are your strings attached?

If there is nobody in the circle, you may feel lonely or you may enjoy the solitude. It is your choice.

Choices are always there in life.

That is one beautiful facet of life. It always gives us choices. When we lament about this and that, we forget that we had made one or several choices towards the said state of affairs.

If there are too many in the circle, we may be overjoyed seeing the crowd, or feel lonelier because nobody is quite there for us in a crowd; or because quality or some depth may elude us completely.

WHOM DO YOU WISH TO SEE IN YOUR CIRCLE?

Obviously, all of us wish to see our circle full of people we love; we admire and truly like. We love that sense of security with people we like, and who are predictable.

Isn’t it? Would you like to have people whom you dislike, surround you? Well, no one does… But, sometimes they surround us all the time.

You can compromise; ignore; let them stay within or make them leave the circle. If they do not leave easily, you may have to push them out. Sometimes, those whom we dislike are those whose true shades we have seen closely because they are from the family. So, how do we push them out? Well, physically if we can’t leave or make them leave, it has to be done in thoughts then; done emotionally and mentally. Sever the string mentally! Or, the toxicity will engulf all in your circle, including yourself.

It is difficult, of course.

Even as I write this, I too struggle to emotionally cut off a few strings.

There is a time destined, for every person to walk in or to walk out. This is simple and plain destiny!

There are dots there for a reason, and even if we do not understand—the dots get connected. Whether chance encounters or cultivated bonds, we meet whom we are supposed to meet, be in school or college or neighborhood or in weddings or on journeys or in office or in training workshops or sometimes in shared cab rides!

And then, people walk out too! Whether death takes them away or misunderstandings or our ego or just plain circumstances or physical distances—but people do walk or simply stray out of our lives.

Acceptance (grudgingly or willingly) and a little patience before we see the full picture and understand the whys and whats is the only graceful option we have. Keep space and gracefully welcome whoever comes in. Make your choice after a few experiences. And whoever is destined to leave at a particular time, let them leave. Just let go…

Till there is breath, the comings and goings of people will go on, whether we like it or not. Even if we close the doors, sometimes there is just no stopping the tide!!!

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